it’s the mindset that matters
Over a decade of research suggests that it’s not the type or amount of stress that determines its impact. Instead, it’s our mind-set that matters most. We do not always have the ability or luxury to reduce the amount of stress we face, and trying to reduce stress (e.g., avoiding the stress of paying bills) may cause more stress later. For example, during the pandemic, studies in various countries have found that young people in particular are struggling.
But the key to building emotional resilience in the face of setbacks is small shifts in awareness and mindset. I was moved by this powerful talk by Kevin Do, What You Believe Becomes Reality (35 minutes).
"If we look at our lives as one full of failures, and the lives of others full of success, that reality will eventually stick. What you believe becomes reality..."
He shares concrete skills that will help shift your internal story and mental strength and find more calm and positive in your days.
And it’s important to understand that stress can even and stress can bring beneficial outcomes. Studies have linked stress with personal initiative and productivity, as well as “physiological thriving, improved relationships, greater appreciation for life, and enhanced perceptions of strength, a phenomenon known as “post-traumatic growth”
After you put your feet on the floor in the morning, immediately say this phrase, “It’s going to be a great day.” As you say these seven words, try to feel optimistic and positive.
-- B.J. Fogg
